When I was updating my about page on my blog, I realized that I never added the fact that I have a boyfriend. I’m not really sure why I didn’t include it before. I realized then that my blog has thus far been rather impersonal and hasn’t really let you in to know more about who I am as a person. That being said, I didn’t think that introducing my boyfriend, Brian, onto my blog should be done with just a small paragraph on my about page. I want you all to know more about me and therefore about us! I decided the best way to do so is by telling you how we met and how our relationship has evolved in over four and a half years, because, well, that is an accomplishment at such a young age!
So, it all started in February, during my senior year of high school. I had absolutely no idea where I wanted to go to college and little more of an idea about what I wanted to study. I started asking my friends where they wanted to go and my best friend was absolutely sold on a program at a college I had never heard of, Canisius College. One night, I was staying over at her house and she was telling me all about the school, the program she wanted to study, and three people she had already met that were going there too. I thought it was so cool that she had already met people that were going to the same college as her. That night, two of them were on the phone with her and she was telling them that I may be interested in going to Canisius too. I found out that one of the guys, which turned out to be Brian, was turning 17 the next day. My friend and I decided to call him back at midnight to wish him a happy birthday. When we did, she ended up going back to sleep and Brian and I hit it off and talked for about an hour that night.
The next day, I was excited to see that he added me on Facebook… I know this part is corny… but we were seventeen. We started talking on and off after that day. I started looking into Canisius more and decided that I might be interested. I decided I wanted to apply to Canisius but didn’t tell my best friend because I wanted to make my own decision about where I wanted to go without someone else convincing me. A few weeks later, she told me that she had signed up for an overnight visit at Canisius and that the three people she knew, including Brian, were also going as well as one of our other friends from high school. That was when I decided to tell her I applied because I thought it would be so cool to go to Canisius with her for the overnight. She was thrilled that we may be going to the same college and told me to contact admissions immediately.
I contacted admissions the next day and was sad to find out that the overnight was booked full. I settled on a campus tour the following day and made plans to meet up with her while I was there. As it got closer to the date of the overnight, our high school friend had gotten her wisdom teeth out and wasn’t sure if she was going to be able to go to the overnight. I told her to let me know if she wasn’t able to go to see if I could take her spot. The day before the overnight, she texted me and told me that she wasn’t going and I emailed my contact at admissions that same night.
The next morning, I woke up to an email from admissions saying that I could take her place and go for the overnight. I called my best friend immediately and told her the good news. She was thrilled and told me that she and her family were leaving in an hour to drop her off and that I could tag along for the 3 hour trip to Canisius. I had never had such an adrenaline rush in my life and packed up everything in about ten minutes and ran out of the house when I saw her dad’s pickup outside. I didn’t tell Brian or her other friends I was coming because I thought it would be a cool surprise.
Flash forward three hours and I was sitting in the admissions office all embarrassed and smiley as Brian sat across from me, feeling the same way. That night we had a blast at a Buffalo Sabres game and sat in the dorm lounge the whole night with my best friend, Brian and one of her other friends chit chatting and having a blast. I was so excited about the idea of going to Canisius at that point. I loved my admissions counselor and the class that I shadowed during my visit as well as the culture of Buffalo as a big sports city. Although I hadn’t even heard of the school a month before that night, everything started to feel right.
I went back home the next day feeling like I knew what the next year of my life was going to bring me. About a week later, my acceptance letter from Canisius came and Brian, my best friend and I celebrated the fact that we were all going to be on the same campus the next fall.
My friendship with Brian grew stronger as we spent hours texting and skyping for the next month. In March, Brian, my best friend and I went to Accepted Student’s Day with our families then Brian and I went out to dinner that night as our first date. Even though it was the second time we had seen each other in person, we had a blast together at dinner and singing in the car as we drove around the city. It was like we had known each other for years.
What I didn’t know is that when he came to pick me up for dinner at my hotel, he had dropped off a wooden heart puzzle that he had made that spelled out “Will you go to prom with me?” to my best friend. She then gave pieces to friends of mine for each class period throughout my day. Each period, a different friend gave me a new piece of the puzzle until I put it all together at the end of the day. So even though we lived four hours away from each other, Brian asked me to his prom. We ended up going to eachother’s proms and had a great time.
This photo was taken in a park before Brian’s senior prom. We kept getting told “Congratulations” because people thought that we had gotten married, which we thought was hilarious. We even got stopped by one of the park workers and were told that we had to sign in at the office if we were taking wedding photos at the park. We still laugh about that to this day.
After high school graduation, we counted down the days until we would start our new journey as a couple and in life as freshmen in college. We both joined the Campus Ministry at Canisius and did a community service program to kick off our start to college. He actually convinced me to study Accounting, which is a program with high recognition at Canisius. I had no idea what I wanted to study, as I said at the beginning of this post, and I was really up for anything. After reading about the program, I decided I wanted to challenge myself with a rigorous program that had a good reputation. I was so excited about college but even more excited that I had Brian as a partner in crime as I headed into this journey that was full of possibilities.
This photo was taken at a Campus Ministry retreat during our first week at Canisius. He was a good sport and wore these shirts that I made with our school colors with me. All throughout freshman year, we had each other’s backs. It was a hard adjustment and many things were changing during our lives but it was so great to have each other to keep one another grounded. Nothing was better than having someone to take care of you when you were sick, which happens a lot when you’re living in a dorm. We were in the same classes so we were always there to help each other study or help each other out if there was something the other person didn’t understand. We really made the most out of freshman year, from going to games together to taking the shopping shuttle to go grocery shopping, it was really great to have each other.
Summers sucked because we went back to being long distance like we were during our senior year of high school and the summer before college but we just had good communication with each other and took full advantage of FaceTime and Skype. We also saw each other during weekend trips probably three or four times during the summer. The best feeling was knowing that soon we would be back in college tackling both our educations and everyday life together again.
Sophomore, Junior and Senior year were just as smooth as the year before and each year we made more and more memories as we grew into young professionals before each other’s eyes. Together we conquered the task of changing majors and getting accepted into The Golden Griffin Fund, an investment research program we dreamed to be a part of together. We found a common love for sports, nature hikes, traveling, and photography together through these years and made the most of every moment.
The photo on the left is from Sophomore year when we dressed up as minions and won second place in the college’s Halloween costume contest. The photo on the right was from Senior year during our trip to Toronto in Graffiti Alley after going to a BlueJays game. No matter what we were doing, it was better because we were together.
As this May came closer and closer, we became anxious together because the end of another chapter was approaching. We were experiencing the same feelings as we had our senior year of high school when we didn’t know what exactly was in front of us. Although there was a lot of uncertainty, we had a goal of moving down to New York City together since we first started college and although it was unclear if we were going to be able to make it happen, we kept our hopes up and new that if it was meant to be, it would be.
May came along and all of our hard work had finally paid off! We both graduated from Canisius College with Bachelor’s degrees in Finance and a packed U Haul ready to hit the road and move to NYC.
Just like Freshman year of college, we have tackled this new journey of adult life together. We probably wouldn’t be in the same place in life if we didn’t have each other but neither of us would want it to be any other way either.
As I sit here writing this, it is crazy to believe that over four and a half years have passed since I sat in my best friend’s bedroom as a senior in high school wishing a complete stranger Happy Birthday or that that one conversation would turn into the strongest relationship I have ever had. It seems like the biggest blessings come along when you least expect them to!
I really hope you enjoyed reading this post and enjoyed learning how I met my boyfriend. If you would like me to write more posts about relationships, whether it’s about how we dealt with being long distance, more about being in a serious relationship in college, or if you have any other post suggestions, leave them down below! I really enjoyed sharing this story with you all!
Remember as always, love yourself and then share that love with others!