Case race, 30 rack, kegger… is this terminology that you should be familiar with? Is this what makes “the college experience”? Some may think, “Hell yeah!” but I’m writing this to tell you that it is fine and actually quite normal to not be the party type in college. I graduated from college in May and didn’t attend a college party until I was 21. Yep, I went to college parties 2 days during my senior year and I can attest to the fact that my four years of college were a blast and 4 of the best years of my life.
I can remember it like it was yesterday, sitting in the mall during my senior year of high school in the food court of my local mall chit-chatting with my two best friends about what college was going to be like and also if we were going to fit in if we didn’t drink and go to parties. I didn’t know what to expect going to college and I thought it would be hard to make friends if I didn’t attend parties.
I’m not going to fluff this post up. Not partying caused some conflict with some of my floormates in college who were deeply invested in the party scene during the first week of classes. I was worried about formatting my Calc homework the right way according to my professor’s commands and other freshmen were in single file lines traveling from party to party outside my dorm window. I would look down on them and think, “Is what they are doing normal or was I acting the way I should?” but I learned that neither action was “normal”.
There is no playbook to succeeding in college. To each their own! You can be equally successful in college whether you party or not! I personally know people who partied hard in college but graduated on a normal schedule and have great jobs to start their post-grad life off with a bang. But I’m not here to talk about them, I only wanted to make it clear that I a do not bash on those who decide to party throughout college. I am here to tell you, the student who isn’t quite sure what college is going to be like if you don’t join the party scene. I’m here to tell you that you are going to be okay.
I’m here to tell you that the best friends that I made were those that I met serendipitously!
They are the girl who was automatically assigned as my roommate my junior year. They are the ones I met in my gen ed classes tirelessly working on group projects. They were the ones who were up working late beside me.
Like I said earlier in this post, I did attend two parties during my senior year. I went to a good friends house to celebrate the hard work we had done in a tough class. It was a typical house party but it was different because among the crowd was my boyfriend, who was also in the class, as well as a few other classmates. This made it a great night because it wasn’t just a night to go get wasted for no reason, which again, I don’t knock. But I want you to know that if you meet a friend and they invite you to a party if you want to go, it may not be a terrible idea! I had a lot of fun those two nights. But it was two nights among countless fun Friday and Saturday nights spent chatting with my friends in the dorms, going to the drive-in to watch a late night double feature, watching a college basketball game or even finding my way through a corn maze with some buddies!
My main point that I hope I have hit home is that although the poster children of college-age kids who party weekly, you don’t have to change your plans to fit the mold. You will make unforgettable memories that you will one day share with your own children while they are in your shoes trying to decide what to pack and what not to pack as they get ready to embark on their own college journey! Make sure when that time comes, you tell them what I’m telling you: there is no cookie cutter… no treasure map or instruction manual. Every college experience is different. Whatever you choose to do, it’ll be four years you’ll never forget.